“Victim” “Abuser” “Survivor” Which is your status, if any? Recently a question was posed on Facebook that asked, “When a victim becomes an abuser, when should he or she be held accountable for his / her actions?” It was a thoughtful question and one worth following. Victims of childhood abuse generally take one of two…
Month: September 2017
CONSEQUENCES!
There’s a fact of life that people seem to disregard or pay no attention to until it comes to bite them directly in the backside. For every action we take or don’t take there are consequences. These are completely unavoidable. Sometimes the consequences are good. Sometimes they are not so favorable. Every decision (or lack…
It’s OK To Be Gray
I asked my husband to cut my hair a couple weeks ago. I didn’t care how much he chopped off. With my natural curls it’s pretty hard to mess up my hair. But with the fans at work there were a lot of dry, dead split ends and I needed them cut off. He obliged…
Escape From The Darkness
Along with being a writer, I am also an artist. I have only recently begun dabbling in art, but I have discovered I have a natural talent for that as well. Beginning with pencil drawings, then moving up to colored pencils, I finally began to experiment with paints. I like to play with darkness and…
Swing and Sway the Toxic Way?
Decisions suck! No matter which choice you make there are consequences. Even the best possible choice can have unforeseen side effects. To NOT make a choice isn’t an option. To swing and sway back and forth like a hanging sign is irresponsible. What you should NOT do is let everyone else make your decisions for…
Healthy Love? Or Toxic?
Poets, authors and songwriters through the years have filled reams of paper with words of love. There are love stories, tragedies, descriptions of love, tales of the lovelorn, and so much more all centered around the topic of love. And why not? Everyone wants to be loved. Anyone who says otherwise is a liar. To…
Yes I Want The Damn Pizza
Are you a people pleaser? Do you usually go out of your way to please others even at the cost of your own plans or desires? I have a special little secret to share with you … You don’t have to do that! No, really! It’s OK to put yourself first occasionally. If you…
Healing the Child to Heal the Adult?
If you had a chance to go back one time in your life to give yourself as a child one piece of advice you know would be heeded, what would it be? At what age would you go back to? Is there a point in your life you consider a turning point? If you’ve been…