Brrr! As I type these words, the temperature outside my door is -21 degrees Fahrenheit with a wind chill of -50. Everywhere around me is frozen solid. Frostbitten skin freezes and turns black in a matter of minutes. It’s not just cold. It’s frigid.
The word “frigid” also is used to describe a person who has grown cold-hearted and unloving in demeanor as well. Most often it is used in a derogatory manner, especially by a spurned would-be lover.
While some might look at such a person condescendingly, I wonder what happened to cause his or her heart to be so cold. Nobody is born with a cold heart. We are born to love and be loved.
Frozen Hearts Experience Pain
Frozen hearts belong to people who experienced pain so badly there is no way for them to recover. The wounds are deep and unforgettable. While many may automatically think of a romantic lover, these are not the only types of heartache that can turn someone cold.
Someone who has a frozen heart has placed a protective wall of ice around themselves. Rather than experience any more pain, he or she has chosen not to allow any feelings to cross the boundary. No more hate or hurt can go in or out. Neither can love.
However, the frozen boundaries of ice can be hell to get around. Few even bother to try. It is often not worth the effort. It is similar to trying to break down a brick wall with a spoon. With enough time and effort, it might be possible but is the prize worth it?
Meeting these frozen people can be uncomfortable. How much worse would it be to find out you are one of those people? Many times I suspect they are unaware of the fact they are cold and unapproachable. It’s hard to imagine someone who knowingly bears a cold frozen heart.
Perhaps it’s time to do a little self-inspection. Do you open your heart to new people and new experiences, or do you instantly put your guard up and protect yourself. Do you keep out hate and love both?
Is YOUR heart frozen?
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