Doesn’t EVERYONE Do This?

 Discovering that I am an empath has also led to realizing that some things that I took for granted as part of being human are not normal for people without empathic gifts.. I always assumed everyone felt the same things I did. That the crazy emotions were normal for everyone.

A good example is the fact that I personally feel the pain I deal to other people. I could never understand why some people would so quickly and easily hurt the feelings of others. I hate the pain I get when I sense I’ve hurt another person. Therefore I try to avoid hurting other people.

Or if someone is obviously feeling down but may not want to talk about it – Rather than pushing for details or forcing unsolicited advice upon them I engage them in safe, non-essential small talk just to help them relax and take their mind from their worries. Feeling their annoyance at being pushed for details is uncomfortable too.

I walk into a room and feel distinct tension in the air. I find it necessary to try to break the tension. I wondered how it is that others never seem to notice the heaviness in the air. It’s always been almost visible to me as I walk into a room where intense emotions have been at play. Happy emotions or angry ones make no different. They are strong no matter what.

Lately I’m realizing that the answer to the question, “Doesn’t everyone do this?” is “NO!” Non-empathic people are not sensitive to those emotions and energy. They enter a room blissfully unaware those in there already just had a horrible argument and hurt each others feelings very badly.

As time flows there are more and more instances I’m finding of “Doesn’t EVERYONE feel this way?” It’s a learning experience. I expect I’ll be learning it my whole life.

I would really like to hear from others who have noticed similar things they took for granted at first, only to realize it’s a symptom of having this gift of being empathic.