Lessons and Blessings

Tragedies cause a lot of heartbreak and sadness. Loss. Pain. Devastation. Nobody wants to see a tragedy occur, especially in their personal lives. But sometimes out of tragedies come the biggest blessings we would never have known. We just have to look for them.
There is always something positive to find in every action, every event. There is always something inspiring to find through the rubble and the ashes and the pain. Often it isn’t easy to see because we are so overwhelmed with grief we are not looking for it.  We have to look for the blessings, the positive aspects.
Natural disasters, floods and tornadoes and these things, can bring a lot of damage and destruction to our communities, our homes and our families. What good can possibly be found from those? I know you are asking the question. Perhaps you are one of the unfortunate ones who even suffered a loss from one of those. Yes, there is still good to find. It takes a broader scope of your vision and a mind that is a little more open.
Look past the devastation. Look beyond the loss. Feel past the grief. What is one good thing that happened because of the disaster? Perhaps you met some new friends who came to help clean things up. Maybe you found a different outlook on life. Or even just a different aspect on a part of life. Maybe it unearthed something special that was hidden. The positives will be different for each person who suffers the disaster, but one can always find something positive in everything that happens if they will only take the time to look for it.
I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and there is no such thing as coincidence. There is a lesson to be learned or a blessing to be received from everything that happens. So if it isn’t bringing you a blessing, it is bringing you a lesson. And you will go through the same trials again and again in one way or another until you learn the lesson.
I learned it is best to evaluate everything to find the lessons and the blessings and address them immediately. It saves on having to suffer through the same lesson over and over until I finally get it. It’s not easy and I fall many times on this journey. I am stubborn to a fault which makes it harder for me to learn the lessons that come to me. But at least I have reached the point where I can acknowledge there is a lesson to learn and look for it, rather than suffer a victim mentality of asking “Why me?”
“Why me?” is a useless question when you understand everything is a lesson or a blessing. The obvious answer to the question is simply “to teach you or to bless you.”
When something happens to bring you pain or loss, take the time to find the reason. It may not be obvious. You may have to just accept that for now it just is until the reason becomes obvious. But understand that none of us are truly victims. We are just students learning about life. And sometimes the teacher is mean.