Hearts and Butterflies

OK Women… it’s time for us to take over!

Wait, what? What in the world am I talking about?

We live in a male dominated society with the testosterone traits of competitiveness, egoism, violence and aggression. Women have been made to feel inferior, submissive and shamed for their compassion and generosity.  And the state of the world shows this.

There are women out there who fought the system, but they had to do it with the masculine tools, the masculine attitudes. However, they paved the way to give women a voice to be heard. Now it’s time for us to use our feminine tools along with that voice to change the world.

BUT, it’s not going to be easy. Not all women are going to jump on the bandwagon and agree with me. There are women who like using the masculine tools.

This isn’t the battle for gender equality.  There was a time and place for that.  It did well in it’s time.  This is a different time.  Now we need to embrace our differences and exploit our strengths as women.  We were meant to be softer and caring.  The heart of society.

What I am suggesting is huge. And not something I can do alone. It’s going to take all the women (and men if there are any) who are willing to join me and it’s going to take some time to implement it.

It’s a crazy idea but it just might work. What I am suggesting is that we create a wave of willing women. A network of sisters. Women who are willing to be an ear, a voice, a catalyst for change.  I envision a network of women throughout the nation and world who will recognize each other and join together in moments of need.

It’s our turn to go to battle, but we need to fight with our own weapons. The weapons of love. Compassion. Tenderness and caring. Empathy. Generosity.

Men have fought the wars for centuries and where has it gotten us? Nothing but more violence. More hate and more separation. It’s time for a new war. A war against war. And I believe women are the best suited for this war. But it’s going to take us all.

I haven’t thought of a battle cry or a secret handshake. However I have considered a symbol we can use to identify each other. I’m not artistic enough yet to create a masterpiece but I think a combined heart / butterfly symbol is perfect for us.

Throughout my life I have been drawn to hearts and butterflies. In fact I had considered using just that as the title for my autobiography if I ever get my butt in gear and write the thing. I always knew they meant something, and perhaps THIS is what they were pulling me towards.

I have quickly drawn up a basic symbol of what I am proposing, but I think anything that resembles the combination of a heart and a butterfly, maybe even a butterfly filled with hearts, is enough to identify oneself as being a woman warrior.

Why hearts and butterflies? I’m not really sure. I think because hearts stand for love. I’ve always been about love, even as a child. And the butterflies? They are free. They are unfettered and peaceful.

Maybe I’m crazy. Maybe there’s not a chance this will take off anywhere. But I’m hoping to start a change. And the only way for change to start is if someone is crazy enough to take a chance and do something insane to start it. Someone needs to be willing to stand up and look like a fool until there are enough other fools to join her and make it respectable.

What does it involve to be one of these Warrior Women? Just to be there. To wear the symbol to identify yourself and show others you care.  Let others know that you are willing to listen to strangers if they need an ear. You are willing to listen to other sisters who need a friend. To be there for each other. To support each other.

When you are shopping and you see a woman who identifies as a sister, acknowledge each other.  Tap the symbol you are wearing.  Introduce yourself.  Go for coffee together and get to know your new sister.

We need to build each other up. We need to show other sisters we are strong in our simpleness. That it’s OK to be caring and compassionate and not competing against men. We were created different because we are different. Women are the heart and men are the muscle. We need both.  Today’s world is too full of muscle and not enough heart.

In the end what it all comes down to is loving others. Being there. Being present. Giving what you are able to give to help create a society of more caring people.

I’m not proposing a gender war. Men are welcome to join the movement toward love and peace and compassion. I would be pleased if they would. But in this society it would be social suicide for a man.

I want to see a world of peace. Of love. Of caring for our friends and neighbors. It’s a hard world. We are all struggling. But instead of fighting against each other, let’s join together and fight together. And work together.

It’s easy to conquer and destroy when you first separate. Instead of finding differences, let’s join our strengths. Let the change start with you and me.  Let’s share a vision of peace and love.

I never understood before what my father used to cryptically tell me… the answer is unity.  I think I understand now.

 

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