Is Your Relationship Killing Your Dreams?

How do you walk away from someone you know isn’t good for you? When do you finally decide you have had enough hurt? At what point is it time to give up all hope? Is your relationship causing you pain?

Anyone with a healthy self-esteem will know by the fact that their partner doesn’t respect them enough. If he or she causes more pain than pleasure it’s a good indication it’s time to evaluate the relationship. If things can’t be repaired, then it becomes necessary to walk away.

There is a lot of pressure to be in a relationship these days. Even the young people feel this way. In high school kids are looking to belong to someone. They jump from one partner to another calling it a steady relationship.

As an adult these things don’t change. There is just a bigger ocean in which to search for the right fish. Because of the pressure to belong to someone, many people are staying in a relationship that they recognize is not healthy for them. It might be easier to stay than to be thrown back into the ocean for a second chance. And, they are missing out on the relationship that would be perfect for them.

If a person never gets much chance to be single, he or she has little chance to know themselves truly. When we are in a relationship, our partner definitely has influence upon who we are. We make decisions based upon what they think or want. It’s easy to lose ourselves when there is more than ourselves to consider.

It’s important to know ourselves. We can’t know our dreams if we are never alone long enough to dream. How can we be happy if we don’t even know what we like and don’t like? If we have to squelch our own dreams to accomodate our partner we aren’t going to be happy.

I did have time alone when I was single. But I didn’t know that it was OK to dream. I was never taught how to dream. Life was just always going to drag me along and I would follow willingly. I’m in the process of learning that I can dream — and I can work to make my dreams come true.
Thankfully my dreams will not cause strife in my marriage. My relationship is healthy and safe. But I would be in a pickle if my husband suddenly didn’t want me to follow my own dreams. One of us would always be unhappy. This is something to consider when finding a partner.

Have you taken time to know yourself? Do you know what your dreams are? What makes you happy? Does your partner support your dreams and wishes? Is it time to evaluate your dreams and your relationship?