Pssst. Wanna Hear A Secret?

“Psst. Wanna know a secret? You can’t tell anyone…” How often have you heard this from someone? The feeling of intimacy with another in sharing hidden knowledge is addicting. There is a sense of belonging.

There is also a certain responsibility. A secret is meant to remain just that — secret. When we share hidden things with another we trust that he will keep it to himself. It can be hard to hold these things close to our chest. They fill us with either excitement or fear.

Some secrets obviously will be revealed in time. What good is a surprise party if it’s public knowledge? In the planning stages all the details must remain hidden from the person who is being honored. Perhaps it is the announcement of a pregnancy. In a matter of time the pregnancy will reveal itself.

Then there are those that are hidden to avoid repercussion, fear, hurt or punishment. If a secret of this type is revealed there will be shame or pain for someone. This can include family dynamics within a dysfunctional family, abuse of any kind, or criminal acts of another. These are never meant to see the light of day.

The problem with secrets is that they usually end up eating us up from the inside out. Once shared, another person shares the burden of keeping it quiet. But whoever carries the secret carries the guilt or shame involved with the secret as well. We submit these negative energies to people we love when we share our secrets with them.

As an empath it’s not too difficult to sense when another is carrying this burden. However, we can’t help them deal with it. Whatever guilt or shame comes with the secret is theirs to handle in whatever way they see fit. The less secrets we have, therefore, the happier we will be.

Do you carry the shame or guilt of any secrets? Is there something you can do to release them and free yourself?