Judging Hidden Secrets

We always think we know people based upon our experiences with them in our lives. We decide whether we like or don’t like them by the behaviors they exhibit around us, whether it be in a very public place, in a small group of friends, or even just on a one-on-one basis. Even our own personal close friends carry hidden secrets they don’t share.

The truth of the matter is that the real person is usually someone that none of us know. Each of us is not who others think we are. We know our own secrets. We know what we keep hidden from the world, from our friends, even from our spouse. Why wouldn’t we think others have hidden the real self from the world as well?

Sometimes the hidden self is brought to light in some manner, causing shock waves throughout our individual circles. Sins of many kinds are revealed and our friend is shown as less than what we originally thought. All of a sudden someone we thought we knew seems to be an alien and we aren’t sure how to behave around him or her anymore. Our natural instinct is to pass judgement.

However, how would we feel if suddenly we were the ones who were being judged? What if things we kept hidden found the light of day? What would we lose? Who would we lose?

Many times in my life, from childhood into adulthood, I have found myself being held in a place of judgment. These were not even for hidden secrets, but rather for not fitting in. I was judged for not being an accepted part of a group. In some cases my beliefs caused me to be judged by others. When chronic pain took over my life I was judged and called lazy because I was unable to perform as “normal” people.

For this reason, I try very hard not to judge others in any circumstance. There are moments when I fail and then catch myself later. It’s normal as a human to judge others, but we can consciously work to stop that behavior. Just as I have been judged and felt hurt, I know how others can feel hurt to be judged. I don’t want to be a part of that hurt.

I am here on the earth to help spread love and healing. It is my calling. I was given the heart and the strength to do that. For this reason I will not condemn another human being no matter their actions or their words. Instead I will pray for their healing. Hurt people hurt people. Hurting others comes from a place of hurt. Those who cause suffering upon another need love and healing, not judgment.

Do you find yourself feeling better than someone else? Do you see them as less than you because of their actions? We all bleed red and feel pain. And we all need to be loved.