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Category: abuse
He Was Eleven Years Old. They Called Him DJ
Dracen John Lee Brabant was an eleven year old boy who had a future ahead of him. But, he breathes no more because he felt that he couldn’t deal with the pressures of life as he knew it. He was a victim of bullying. Dracen, or DJ as he was affectionately called, had a family…
Is It Love (Or a Trauma Bond)?
Let’s talk about a trauma bond. It’s a little off the main road of my recent posts, but anyone who has followed me for any length of time knows that I can veer off the beaten path at any given moment. These posts are usually about what’s most prevalent in my life when I feel…
A Second Chance
Do you immediately put someone out of your life for a mistake or, do you give them a second chance? Should everyone be allowed another chance, or is it one and done? I guess I’m a super lenient person, but I will always give someone a second chance. There is good in every one of…
Boundaries and Social Media
In the past few days, I’ve had conversations with different people about boundaries. It made me realize how many people don’t know how to set or maintain healthy boundaries. (Or even realize they have a right to set them!) I feel that learning to set boundaries should be actively taught when children are young. However,…
The Two Blog Writers
There are two writers for this blog. The first writer did the writing in the beginning when the blog was first born. The second writer took over this last year. When I started this blog in 2017, my purpose was to share my story and thoughts with the world, or as much of it as…
Therapy? Who Needs it! Not Me, I’m Fine!
Therapy? Nah. Not for me. I can handle things on my own. That was my attitude when people suggested I might try counseling. And for quite a few years there were those who said I needed it. Part of the problem was that I felt that counseling and therapy were only for those who had…
From Where Comes Your Strength?
I follow a good number of social media groups and pages dedicated to self-help, healing, abuse, narcissistic behaviors and similar topics. This morning, author Barb Schmidt had a post on Facebook that resonated with me. It labeled a master manipulator as someone who controls or influences others in a clever or unscrupulous manner. Anyone who…
Governor’s Orders
There was fear in his eyes as I stood before him. It was a shame really. I didn’t want to do this, but it was now ordered by the governor. To be fair, he had tried to hide the fact he had no tattoo on his forehead with a large-brimmed hat. It was only his…
Abuse? It Is NOT Abuse …
It’s not abuse. I’m just stupid. Why didn’t I know better than to make potatoes with his fish? He never eats mashed potatoes with his fish. He always has rice. Why did I try to change things and try something different? Why am I so stupid? It’s not abuse. He doesn’t beat me. He’s never…